“Comfort” by Aldous Huxley

“Comfort” by Aldous Huxley

A New Fresh Thing French hotel-keepers call it Le confort moderne, and they are right. For comfort is a thing of recent growth, younger than steam, a child when telegraphy was born, only a generation older than radio. The invention of the means of being comfortable...
When Nice Isn’t

When Nice Isn’t

Our world gets smaller, every time we don’t speak our truth. Our desires for pleasure, safety, connection, better pay, all go numb in the vault of nice. Our boundaries against an unwanted connection, abuse, neglect, misattunement, disrespect, all begin to fade away into something we are impotent to call forth and stand by.

Love | Fear

Love | Fear

What if, when faced with hurt, insult or betrayal, you opened into it with love and curiosity, instead of recoiling, clamping down, striking back, running or numbing out? In those moments when someone I love breaches our connection with disdain, devaluing,  or...
Were You Programmed for Failure as a Baby?

Were You Programmed for Failure as a Baby?

What if things that happened (or didn’t happen) when you were a baby (that you don’t remember) are affecting you profoundly today, in ways that you don’t know? Leading you like a zombie to do this unhealthy thing or that? Chase away healthy people and chase after...
Gratitude and Platitude

Gratitude and Platitude

Crisp, fresh air alternating with wind and rain this time of year are so refreshing for me. More and cozier clothes, and trysts with my heater bring such pleasure. More connections with friends and family over meals and conversation feel welcome after the busyness of...
Hidden Depression in Men

Hidden Depression in Men

It used to be that psychologists thought that women were far more likely to suffer from depression than men. Researchers eventually found layers of defense that men use far more often than women, and have kept hidden much of the depression that men suffer from. “I...
Ten Ways to Calm an Anxiety Attack

Ten Ways to Calm an Anxiety Attack

As we move beyond the holidays, I find that it might be helpful to give a review of some of the strategies that have helped my clients manage themselves when they felt challenged, and ways to prevent some of the difficulties.   Become aware of signs of activation...
A Story of Transformation

A Story of Transformation

A client came to me recently suffering from years of what he considered to be manifestations of ADHD wherein he would intermittently enter into a fairly paralyzed state where he was unable to address or perform tasks crucial to his  self-care and his livelihood. He...